"3 ways to improve your communication skills"

Do you know the keys to becoming a great conversationalist!!

FIRST key is to pause before replying.A short pause of three to five seconds after a person stops talking is a very classy thing to do in a conversation when you pause you accomplish three goals simultaneously: 

1_For starters we cut the risk of interrupting the person who is chatting down to minimum, and let that person catch his/her breath for a fragment of minute. 

2_ The second benefit is that you show the other person that you are giving careful consideration to his or her words by not jumping in with your own comments at the earliest opportunity. 

 3_The third benefit of pausing in conversation is that you will actually hear the other person better his or her words will soak into a deeper level of your mind and you will understand what he or she is really saying with greater clarity by pausing you'll mark yourself as a brilliant conversationalist. 

SECOND way to become a great conversationalist is to question for clarification never assume that you understand what the other person is saying or trying to say instead of doubt at all as how do you mean exactly and then just pause and wait this is the most powerful question I've ever learned for guiding and controlling a conversation it's almost difficult not to answer this question when you ask how do you mean the other person cannot stop himself or herself from answering more extensively you can then follow up with other indefinite questions and keep the conversation continue. 

 THIRD way to become a great conversationalist is to paraphrase the speaker's words in your own words so after you have nodded and smiled you can then say well let me see if I've got this writer let me see if I understand you exactly what you're saying is this and then you repeat it back in your own words by paraphrasing the speaker's words you demonstrate in no uncertain terms that you are genuinely paying attention and making every effort to understand his or her thoughts or feelings and the most striking thing is when you practice effective listening other people will begin to find you fascinating they will want to be around you they will feel relaxed and happy in your presence because when you listen to other people you make them feel important the reason why listening is such a powerful tool in developing the art and skill of conversation is because listening builds trust the more you listen to another person the more he or she trusts you and believes in you. Listening also builds confidence when you listen with attention to another person his or her self-respect will naturally increase he or she will feel better about themselves he or she will be feel more valuable and more respected finally listening builds self-esteem in the listener because your mind can process words at 500 to 600 words per minute and we can only talk at about 150 words for a minute it takes real effort to keep your attention focused on another person's words if you do not practice self-discipline in conversation your mind will wander in a hundred different directions the more you work at paying close attention to what the other person is saying the more self-disciplined you will become,you actually develop your own character and your own personality